I grew up in fear – every face around me depicted nothing but fear. I
am sure that the first expression on my parent’s face on my birth as a
female child born to Hindu parents living in Kandhkot would have been
that of fear also. Why did I bring so much fear into the lives of my
parents? I grew up always wondering what is it about me that continues
to terrify. But I always drew a blank. How naïve I was.
Before I knew it, the time to attend school had arrived. School was
comfortable; however, there were times when I felt like an outsider,
finding it difficult to gel in with rest of the majority. Perhaps the
snide remarks and incidents of discrimination led me to believe that I
am not one of ‘them’. Of those incidents, I still vividly remember no
one eating with me and refusing to sip from the cup I drank from.
Home wasn’t very different either. My mother asked questions about my
life at school and otherwise looking for answers that would somehow
relinquish her from the unknown fear. Afraid to disappoint her, I
realised very early in my life that my mother could not be my confidant.
Growing up was not easy.
And then it happened. The fears of my mother and many Hindu mothers
like her materialised. I went out to one of the largest markets of
Kandhkot and was abducted by a man I knew very well. He was none other
than the guard who was responsible for safeguarding our temples.
Knowing his face well prompted me to sit with him in his car without
protest, however, instead of taking me to my house he turned to an alley
that I wasn’t too familiar with. Scared and unsure about what lay ahead
I started screaming just to hear my abductor scream louder and threaten
me. Astonished and unable to comprehend the gravity of the situation I
sat still until it was time to step out of the car to a small house
which looked abandoned.
We entered the house to find a large room devoid of any furniture and
other bearings except for a carpet that covered the floor. I was made
to sit down on the floor.
Uncertain about what was going to happen to me; my mind raced with
thoughts of the recent news of the abductions and forced conversions of
Hindu girls. I sat there shuddering. The realisation struck me and I
could see my entire life in front of me in kaleidoscope. My mother’s
fears, my father’s warnings, the alienation I felt, the yearning to be a
part of the circle of friends, the search for a confidant, a friend.
My worst fears were reaffirmed when a man wearing a turban entered
the room to teach me about a religion which I grew up hearing about,
however, felt no urge to practise or embrace. He kept sermonising me for
hours but was unable to get me to listen to him, realising that he left
asking me to ponder about the true religion.
His departure did not ignite any fire for eternal glory inside me but
only made me wonder why did my parents not relocate to another country
when they had the chance to do so? Why did they continue to live in fear
waiting for the inevitable to happen instead of making a move to safer
pastures? And, what made me think that I am any different from countless
girls who are forced to change their faith?
Each passing day appeared to be more and more surreal. The ritual of
preaching continued for days, I lost track. Eventually, when preaching
did not do the trick, my abductor threatened me.
The routine ranging from threats to persuasion and from glorifying
the paradise to the wrath of God for non-believers only made me wonder:
Do we not all pray to the same God — a God who is manifested in nature,
colours, happiness and love? Why would he punish me for being a Hindu?
Somewhere along this relentless persuasion, came that horrifying
threat of harming my family – I gave in. My approval followed a small
ceremony in which I was forced to embrace Islam and later married off to
the man who will always be remembered as the ‘messiah’ who for saved me
from the unknown territory of sin and infidelity I was treading on.
After the ceremony, instead of receiving blessings for a happy and
prosperous life ahead, I was immediately escorted to a local court where
a Muslim magistrate declared my conversion and marriage in accordance
with the law.
The news of my conversion and marriage to a Muslim man spread like
wildfire. I dreaded the moment of meeting my parents. I never wanted to
see pain and agony on their faces let alone be the reason for all their
grief. Sure enough, one look at my mother made me yearn for my own
death.
I wanted to tell her that I love her and that her safety was all I
had in mind when I converted. I wanted to tell my father to keep my
sisters safe. I wanted to tell my brothers to leave the country whilst
they still could. I wanted to say much more but their silent pain and
suffering made me wish if only I wasn’t born a girl, if only I wasn’t
born in Pakistan, if only I had the right to be myself and practise my
faith without being herded into a religion that I failed to comprehend,
if only I could make them all understand that there is just one God for
all, if only I could give us all an identity that we rightly deserve.
Looking at all the faces that once seemed familiar; I wondered: who am I?
I am one but share the pain of many. I am Rachna Kumari, Rinkle
Kumari, Manisha Kumari and the many more Hindu girls who will be forced
to convert in Pakistan. I am the fear of their families and the agony
that they undergo. I am the misery of those girls who die a little every
day for the injustices done to them.
I am a minority living in an intolerant society.
The writer is a Reporter at Dawn.com
Courtesy : Dawn
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